Monday, April 09, 2012

Article of the Week- PERIOD 5

CAN men and women be friends? 
Reference the article when giving your opinion.

18 comments:

  1. I think that men and women can just be friends depending on the age and maturity level of the people that are trying to be friends. If a man or women is married, they could be friends with who ever they want without consequences because there partner trusts them. If teenages are trying to be just friends I don't think entierly impossible, but still has the possiblities that someone would develop further feelings for the other person.
    Taylor

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  2. Yes, I do believe that men and woman can be friends. I believe they can be friends at any age. You can control your feelings with people, if you start having feelings for a friend tell them and work on the relationship and see what is ahead for the both of you. I think it’s the fact that some people prefer having friends of the other gender then their own because they seem to get a long more with them. When William Deresiewicz “A boyfriend is a friend, as well as a lover.” Yes a boyfriend should be like your friend and your lover but how are you going to meet a boy for him to become your boyfriend, you have to be friends first.

    Ashlie Forsberg

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  3. I think yes, men and women CAN be friends. Those who are in a relationship are already friends with their significant other. Married couples call their spouse their best friend, which is true. Friendship doesn't really turn into something else, for relationships are still friendships but more. There's nothing wrong with calling a person of the opposite sex their friend. Consider it just like any other friendship, unless one person wants to take it to the next level. Two opposite gender friends can still talk to each other as if the guy is talking with one of his buddies and the girl is talking with one of her girlfriends. There's no rule saying that if two people of the opposite sex were to socialize, they must be dating.

    Henry Lau
    Period 5

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  4. "I don’t see that platonic friendships are actually rare at all or worthy of a lot of winks and nudges. Which is why you don’t much hear the term anymore. Platonic friendships now are simply friendships. But doesn’t the sex thing get in the way? At times, no doubt. It’s harder for the young, of course — all those hormones, and so many of your peers are unattached. In fact, one of the most common solutions to Harry’s quandary is to have sex and then remain friends. If the sex thing gets in the way, the answer often seems to be to just get it out of the way."
    I can agree with these couple of sentences because when your younger you dont really worry about wether the girls your freind or more. When your older and in a realationship or married you have more restraints can cant think of any freind as more then just a freind.

    Hilliard'

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  5. It's hard to say if men and women can really just stay friends. It seems that every time there's a movie about a guy and a girl who are friends, they either end up getting together or one of them develops feelings for the other, and ultimately causes the downfall of the friendship. They're posed with the question "Do I try to just remain friends? Or do I make a move and see if they feel the same?", and then they're faced with an internal conflict of "I want to ask them out, but if they say no, our friendship will feel awkward and strained." It's tough, because you want to be happy, but you also want your friend to be happy. However, I feel that this issue is lessened as you get older; relationships are more serious and meaningful, some even serious enough where the couple feels comfortable with the thought of marriage. Clearly if you're a married man or woman, it's assumed and expected that your husband or wife is the only person you're involved in romantically, and that you don't have those fleeting feelings of liking someone else.

    Summer H

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  6. In my opinion I do believe men and women can be friends. At a young age I can understand how people may think that boys and girls can’t just be friends, and there has to be some sort of attraction. However, when you get older and get married you become more attached and true to your partner. At that point in life you swear to be with them forever, and have trust in one another. Then you start to develop friends of the opposite sex and don’t need to have any attraction to them at all. It could simply just be someone that you have known for some time, and like hanging out with., or catching up with. Also, when you get married you think of your partner as your best friend. “Who doesn’t think of their spouse — or claim to think of them, or want to think of them — as their best friend? ” Men and women can definitely just be considered friends.

    JJ Carbone
    Period 5

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  7. I believe a man and a woman can be friends. There is a fine line between being attracted to someone and being friends. Yes, i believe you can be attracted to a friend, but there is a difference in finding a friedn attractive, and liking that person more than a friend. People of the opposite sex can be attracted to eachother, and still remain friends, in some cases only one falls in love with the other but i believe that there can bea freidnship between a man and a women. Many people are in marrigas and have best friends that are of the opposite sex! its perfectly normal to have that kind of interaction. Sometimes, it dosent always work that was but it is possible

    kellyparker per5

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  8. I believe a man and woman can be friend to an exstent.At a young age I can understand how people may think that boys and girls can’t just be friends, and there has to be some sort of attraction. But people . You can control your feelings with people, if you start having feelings for a friend tell them and work on a way to still be friends with out takeing it any farther.

    ari

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  9. I believe that each relationship between a man and a women is different. Whether or not they are just friends or more than that depends on the type of person they are. I feel that there are equal amounts of situations were people have friends of the opposite sex as well as "more than friends" of the opposite sex. Each relationship is unique. And generalizing how people of the opposite sex communicate or connect is, I guess, wrong.

    -Emma Corbett

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  10. I believe that men and women can be friends. But if you do have feelings for your friend then you should tell them and if they have the same feelings then you should try to date but if your friend ends up not having the same feelings then you should just still be friends. But it is very possible for men and women can be friends. I am friends with a girl that I have grown up with since pre k and I dont have any feelings for her except for how good of a friend she is. So it dosent happen to everyone but it is very possible for men and women to be friends.
    Ryan

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  11. I think that men and women can be friends. But if they start to develop feelings for each other, their friendship can change. If they both feel the same way about each other then they are probably going to go out. And if only one has feelings for the other than their frienship could become akward but they could still remain friends. Some people rather have a best friend of the opposite sex and not develop feelings at all.

    Jennyfer Jarrin

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  12. Yes, I do feel that men and women can be just “friends” but to an extent to where if they start developing feeling for each other then they should give it a go. “We understand romantic relationships, and we understand family, and that’s about all we seem to understand.” I do seem to agree with what William has to say about people’s thoughts when they just see a male and a female. They instantly think that there is a romantic side to the relationship, when that is not always the case. Females and males can be just as close as friends as two males or two females, but usually society looks over the fact that people of different sexes can be just friends.

    -Zack Bortolan

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  13. I believe that men and women can be friends. It started in everyone’s early years when school began. Children were surrounded by other kids of the opposite sex which went on for years. As people grew up, they chose to be closest friends with the individuals that shared similar likes or ideas. It didn’t matter if one person was friends with guys or girls. Many people still believe high school is the time when students feel differently about their friend or friends of the opposite sex. The author believes the same, saying “it’s harder for the young, of course — all those hormones, and so many of your peers are unattached.” That is true for some, but false for others. Some continue to be just friends while others become more than just friends. But being friends with someone is the first step in any relationship. It is people’s personalities that attract individuals soon to be their friends. It doesn’t matter what gender people’s friends are because friendship comes in different genders.

    Meglin Bodner

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  14. Yes I do believe men and women can be just friends. We all grow up with certain people that have always been there for us and we know that they will always be there, but that it will never been anything more. However, I also think that it is incredibly easy to fall for one of your friends because you are always around and you can tell them anything. When you think about it most people you date tend to be your friends because you want to get to know them and know if you will be good together. I also believe it is easier for some guys and girls to be friends than others. For example, if you are married then it would be easier to be friends with the opposite sex because you are committed to that one person. It honestly doesn't matter about the gender of the people. Gender has nothing to do with it. It depends on the people that are friends that will decide what happens between them.
    Kelsie DePino

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  15. i believe men and women can or can't be friends depending on the age or circumstances. If someone is older and married, they might be able to be friends with someone of the opposite gender if they are completely faithful to their spouse. If either people are not married, i beleive it may be possible to just be friends but its not likely they dont feel any attraction towards each other. I believe that the more time they spend together, the harder it will become to stay friends.

    Chase Swift

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  16. I think the age would have to be the determining factor if men and women can be friends. When your a committed adult it might be easier to be friends with the opposite gender. Otherwise it is more likely they will become closer overtime and have a strong bond between them. There is a certain amount of trust that you gain when your friends with someone over a long period of time so that can help convince you to pursue them in a more intimate way.

    Laurel

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  17. I dont think men and women can be friends if they are below a certain age. In a committed relationship mayeb tey can have friends of the opposite gender. It is easy to fall for someone who has always been there and you care about them. The longer they stay "friends" the easier it would be to begina relationship with them.

    Lauren Atkinson

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  18. I think men and women should be freinds. If you have a friend that doesn't like you back it doesn't mean they cant be freinds. I think that when you hang with friends that are guys or just girls they can help you with advice but sometimes that friend that is a girl or boy could help more because boys know boys and girls know girls so it helps to be friends with both.

    Nick DeBroi

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